Say “yes ” To A Positive Parenting

Today we will tell about an educational revolution of what is called positive parenting.

This model is based on the idea that discipline is teaching our children how to do by being positive. It is about creating a relationship with mutual respect between parents and children.

Do you think you could stop saying the word NO? With a little effort and support, you can be sure.
Science assures us that teaching our children in a positive way helps to promote their development. Through positive parenting, a child can grow into a healthier individual who is better prepared for life.

Of course, there are many more benefits. The main advantage of avoiding the word NO is that it leads to a more constructive relationship.

Children growing up with a positive parenting

Children who grow up with a positive parenting also help other children in turn. Over time, they develop healthy behaviors based on tolerance, dialogue and respect.

Sometimes the word NO is the first thing that comes out of our mouths, even when our children are just children – for example when our children start walking or crawling and want to touch everything they can see.

We often resort to the word NO for convenience, to save time. Saying no is faster than taking the time to explain the reasoning behind the child must not do anything.

While all of these are NOT meant to keep our children safe, they are definitely not the best way to get our children to cooperate.

Studies have shown that overuse of the word NO has a negative impact on a child’s linguistic abilities. Children who hear NO often have poorer language than those who hear more positive answers from their parents.

Using a positive parenting for our children does not mean that we give them everything they want. Nor does it mean that we spoil our children.

Rather, it is about changing perspectives and no longer relying on reflexive negations.
By making our language more positive, we help our children better understand the world around them. As parents, we are the best teachers our children have.

Start saying “yes” to positive parenting

Abel Domínguez Llort, Child Psychologist and Head of Domínguez Psicólogos in Madrid, Spain, shares his thoughts on positive parenting:

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The goal is for children to understand why they are not allowed to do anything or behave in a certain way. We should offer our children arguments that are appropriate for their age and experience.

There are many ways to help your child understand. You can negotiate with your child when you present different options or activities. These options are designed to persuade your child not to do whatever it is you do not want him to do.

What experts say about saying no

Avoiding the word NO can often be a very complicated task. This is especially clear when a child behaves very badly or may injure himself.

But remember that the idea is not to eliminate the word NO completely from your vocabulary. Rather, a positive parenting is focused on creating a balance in the way you handle your child. It’s about not saturating your child with the word NO.

Over time, constant use of the word can make children feel afraid to explore the world around them. It can make your child anxious, scared and even anxious.

Specialists say that instead of saying no, it is better to try to communicate about a possible alternative. The option you suggest should be more attractive than what the child is currently set on.

Try to say “yes” to positive parenting

It would be best, according to Spanish psychologist and author Alicia Banderas, if you can limit your NO to about 20%. The remaining 80% of the time, you should try to redirect your child by providing options.

This helps your child rethink and thereby choose the more appealing and acceptable option.

If children hear the word NO too often from you, they will be frustrated when they hear it at home.

There needs to be a fair share of NO, Banderas insists. And she adds the following to clarify the question: When I want my daughter to understand something clearly and distinctly, because it is dangerous for her or because it can be dangerous for others, I say no. But other times it ends with us starting to quarrel and we should not get into that dynamic all the time.

Clear boundaries

Avoiding excessive NO does not mean that mothers and fathers need to be submissive to their children. Parents still need to raise their children with norms and discipline.

Have clear boundaries and learn to say no to your children when necessary. This is the secret to a natural upbringing.

The authority that parents show should be an open door that allows their children to learn from experience.

All children need rules and discipline to be able to grow and develop in a healthy way… Emotionally, socially and mentally.

The goal is not to censor your children to the point where they are afraid to even start an activity. This is only counterproductive to their development.

Ideally, parents should guide their children in a healthy and positive way. This is done by using a careful and loving dialogue.

Your clear answers should invite your children to make good decisions.