Being Emotionally Abandoned: A Letter From A Daughter

Unfortunately, pain is a reality in today’s society. There are many families who are torn apart for various reasons. One of the most heartbreaking consequences of this is being emotionally abandoned as a child.

Today we present a little girl’s letter to her father. In it, we will discover that being emotionally abandoned can be even more difficult for children to deal with than being physically abandoned.

To be emotionally abandoned in childhood

When parents separate or divorce, it is difficult for children. It is difficult for them to accept or understand why it happened. It is also difficult to put into words the intense feelings that can be caused by parental separation.

Feeling emotionally abandoned in childhood can cause everything from an identity crisis to low self-esteem. These children have problems with other children, they feel insecure and often think that they will never be valuable to anyone.

Children may think that they have done something wrong and that it was they who caused their parent to abandon them.

For a child, it can be very painful to be emotionally abandoned. Below you can read a letter from a little girl who writes to her father who left her.

It is said that we do not know our own strength until the only option we have left is to be strong. This little girl decided to be strong and heal the wounds with this beautiful letter.

Letter from a little girl to her father

Dad, I want you to know that I like you all the time.

Every day I wonder what would have happened if you had not left us, but I guess it’s better this way.

I have found my passion: art. If you were here with me, I would ask you to take me to museums, photo exhibitions and galleries, and to the theater, the symphony orchestra and writers’ meetings. It really would have been fun.

Art has helped me to discover many things, to observe people and let my imagination fly free. Today, the only thing I want to be able to imagine is what your smile looks like.

I wonder what your eyes look like when you are sad or how your forehead wrinkles when you are angry. I would take many pictures of you, because I finally have the camera I always wanted, the one I asked for so many times.

Sometimes I dream of walking with my arm around you and walking down the street while I rest my head against your shoulder. I have always longed to know how it would feel if you said to me, “How beautiful you are.” Too bad you never would.

Nothing’s wrong, Dad. I understand that you are very busy.

You left me. But I know it was not my fault, nor was it my mother’s. I’ve always wanted to be as strong as she is, but I can not because I miss you so much, after all.

I still remember the day you left us. I would have liked to know that I would never see you again, so that I could have hugged you hard and told you that I will always love you.

Why didn ‘t you tell the truth, Dad? If you had said that, it would have been easier.

I wish you had chosen us. I needed you. I needed to hear your words of encouragement every morning, your advice. Above all, I needed you so that you could make it clear that no one should treat me badly, because I am valuable.

Today I am aware of all that, but it would have been easier to hear it from you.

I have tried in many ways to fill the deep emptiness that I feel. Some ways that do not make me proud.

My love relationships have been disastrous because of the fear of them leaving me. Sometimes I cried at the mere thought of not getting married and it made me very cowardly in my love relationships.

The truth is, I do not want to suffer like my mother did for you.

What is a promise worth if it is not fulfilled?

Mom and I did quite well, and I admire her a lot. She’s always by my side. She taught me that no matter how difficult life is, it always gets better when you smile. She’s a real woman.

When I see mom, I have a hard time understanding that you went. Sometimes I think you were afraid, for your strength and for your willingness to move on. When you did not feel capable, you fled. Even if I do not understand your reasons.

I hope with all my heart that you are there for your wife and your other children. And that you can be to them what you could not be to us: a father and a faithful companion. I say goodbye with dry eyes because tears are no longer needed.

I know I said I will always love you, but today I am convinced that the only thing I love is the thought of what you could have been. I just have to thank you for my life, because it’s the best gift you’ve given me. I really hope you are well. I’ll send you a hug and a kiss goodbye, wherever you are.

Today I healed my wounds.