My Teenager’s First Broken Heart
In this article, we give you some tips that can serve as a guide when dealing with your teen’s first broken heart.
Breakups are often deeply painful. When it comes to young people, it is important that the parents are present and support them.
Adolescence magnifies everything
Your teen’s first broken heart may make him or her feel like the world is going down. Restlessness, irritability, deep sadness and apathy are all emotions that can be associated with losing their first love.
Your teen’s emotional maturity is still developing. Therefore, it can be difficult for him or her to balance all the responsibilities of everyday life and at the same time the overwhelming pain from the breakup, with the result that it can affect your entire teenager’s life: academically, socially and within the family.
The recovery process after a broken heart is not easy and it takes a while. But if you reach out to your teenager and become his or her advisor – if you guide without taking over – you will help him or her gain strength and confidence.
In addition, you strengthen the connection and the bond between you.
Your teenager’s first broken heart
Seeing your depressed and apathetic teenager after a breakup can be exhausting. In addition, the mood can be for several weeks or months when it has to do with a teenager’s first broken heart. But it depends entirely on the child’s emotional maturity.
1. Listen to your teen
Of course, your teenager must be the one who voluntarily tells the story of his or her failed relationship.
You should not pressure your teen to talk about it if he or she does not want to. And do not ask too many questions either. Let your teen vent their emotions and of course you need to avoid judging him or her. Neither your teenager’s or his or her partner’s behavior is something you should judge.
If you want to give any advice, you must first ask permission before sharing your opinion. Be as gentle and careful as possible so that your words act as a guide and do not sound like an attack.
2. Distract your teen
Another tip is to keep your child distracted and busy. If possible, take him or her on vacation or organize an activity. That way, you can keep your teen distracted so that he or she has some time and perspective to heal his or her broken heart.
Encourage sports and be active
Exercise releases endorphins that provide immediate well-being to the body. In addition, they help reduce stress levels. This way, your child can “burn up” their frustrations. A little at a time, he or she will be able to handle his or her breakup better.
4. Try to get your teen to go out with his friends
It is common for teenagers to isolate themselves after a breakup. If this is the case with your child, encourage him or her to go out with their friends to forget about heartache. Friendship is the best support in difficult times.
5. Do not rule out therapy
Many people stigmatize visits to psychologists and think it is unnecessarily “extreme”, but when it comes to relationships, many adults stick to bad experiences from their youth and from which they did not heal properly. Later, they develop bad behaviors that make it difficult for them to learn how to love another person.
It is therefore important that you do not rule out therapy for your teen’s broken heart. It can help him or her to overcome his or her emotional suffering faster and more effectively.
In addition, it prepares your teen to better deal with breakups in the future. And not only that, but it can also help your teen deal with losses in other aspects of life.
