A Natural Upbringing: Love Your Children The Right Way

To love your children in the right way means to love them with all your heart. Forever. This is how mothers love their children; with music, emotions and poetry. Parents’ deep love for their children is something the children carry with them for the rest of their lives. And this love is what characterizes the family.

We are pretty sure that, before you got your motherly instinct, you could not imagine that you were capable of feeling a love that is so pure, so perfect and so strong. Sometimes it fills you with fear and endless worry.

Am I doing the right thing? Does my child need something I am not aware of? Is he in pain somewhere? Is he crying for a reason I can not understand?

Fear is a natural part of raising your child. They force us to do our best every day. They drive us to really get to know each of our children because, as we know, all children are different.

Your child is unique and perfect in their own way. Everything with the child is the only one of its kind – right down to the way it breathes.

And in the same way, you will no doubt discover a new and unique kind of love. A love that surpasses everything you have ever felt until now.

It is something deeper, more organic and soothing –  your child makes a permanent impression on your soul and reminds you that time and distance do not matter. 

The little creature will always be an image of perfection in your eyes. Even when he grows up and, dressed in a suit, independently looks for his own path in life… he will always be your little perfect child.

In today’s article we will talk about the wonderful art of loving in the right way.

To love your children in the right way is to create a healthy and lasting bond with them

Until recently, a kind of systematic method of raising children was highly valued by many; a daily routine that focused on making sure the baby ate at a certain time, fell asleep without problems and grew up properly.

According to this philosophy, a child should reach each stage of development at a specific time and in a certain order: start talking, crawling, potty training and developing his fine motor skills, etc.

• A natural upbringing, on the other hand, does not focus on this type of goal. The goal of a natural upbringing is instead to  establish a strong emotional bond with your child, a healthy and meaningful connection built on love and closeness.  

• With this band as a basis, we give our children the chance to develop at their own, personal pace. We strive not to stress our children or expect them to take steps they are not ready for.

• To love your children in the right way in this case means to approach them with love, as if their life depended on it – because it does! A mother’s closeness is fundamental to the baby’s well-being. But also a dad’s presence is important to create this bond.

Loving your children properly means getting to know them and understanding their needs

Today we have greater access to information than ever before. Nevertheless, there are many parents who expect their children to develop into exactly the child they intend.

• An upbringing based on strict obedience, according to some predetermined script where the child’s needs have not been taken into account, is a grave mistake.  

• We should raise our children with respect and follow them every day to understand them and teach them their specific needs.

• Loving your child right starts in the first weeks of the child’s life. Even when the baby is newborn, we can begin to discern their personality. We can discover if our child is demanding, easygoing, nervous and wants to be held all the time, or is happy to be put in his cot.

Gradually, our children give us more clues, more gestures and behaviors that help us understand them on a deeper level. The time will come when we will have to help them control their emotions, when we need to understand their frustrations and calm down their angry outbursts.

All of this is part of loving your children properly. It does not mean punishing them, shouting at them or raising them based on fear or punishment.  

To love properly is to plant precious memories in your child’s heart and mind

A happy childhood is the preparatory work for maturity; it offers the psychological resources to find satisfaction, contentment and the opportunity to achieve their goals.  

It is about giving the child closeness and taking care of them through understanding and active listening.

It means offering our sons and daughters security and confidence and making them feel valuable. Loving our children in the right way means raising them with a healthy self-esteem.

At the same time, we must be sure not to overlook another very important aspect: we need to fill their childhoods with happy memories. To do that , we need to be aware that our little ones need our time. 

Our active presence and involvement in their daily activities creates meaningful and unforgettable moments, as well as positive emotions that leave traces in their hearts. And in our.

So give your child time and commitment. Love them the right way for them. Give them the life they deserve and give them the chance they deserve for a happy and fulfilling future.

Photos courtesy of Pascal Campion