How To Tell Your Children To Listen
How many times have you asked your children to do something but instead of doing it they just ignore you? In all probability, it happens more often than you want. In today’s article, we will give some tips on how to tell your children to listen.
Being a parent is no easy task. No one teaches us how to do it, and there is no user manual or instruction manual. What we do know, however, is that we all want to raise our children in the best possible way. It is important to raise children with positive discipline that is dominated by respect, love and care. At the same time, it encourages independence and gives our children a happy and healthy childhood.
The past is discipline based on punishment, comparisons, meaningless lectures, threats and insults. But often we do not realize the negative and long-term consequences that this type of parenting can have for our children.
How not to tell
The first step is to always speak with confidence and pondus. We should say yes, make inquiries and give instructions in a calm and friendly, but determined way.
There is no point in shouting at your children – you do not make them listen to you by raising your voice. In addition, we as parents are our children’s role models. With this behavior, your children will also start screaming and yawning as a way to express their anger and dissatisfaction with others – including you.
How to tell your children to listen
Choose the right time when you tell
Before asking for anything, make sure your child is receptive. The right time is not when he or she is angry, tired, sad, etc. You should then instead wait for a better moment to talk to your child.
Look your child in the eye when talking to him or her
This is a very important aspect when it comes to communicating clearly and effectively with our children. Shouting orders from the other side of the house is not as effective as talking to your child face to face.
Pay attention to how you address your child
It is important that you use a determined and friendly tone, but as I said without shouting. And at the same time, you need to use simple language so that your children understand exactly what it is you expect from them.
Be clear and concise when you say something
To tell your children to listen, you should use short phrases that are easy to understand. This will make it easier for your children to understand what you are asking them to do.
Always be consistent
If you do not want to use the authority you have been given, you must be determined when making demands on our children. For example, if you tell your child one day that a certain behavior is not allowed, you can not contradict yourself the next day by allowing it.
Stand united as parents
If one parent says something that the other parent does not agree with, it is still important to support each other. You can discuss the issue later in private, but not in front of your children.
Always praise your child when he or she has done the right thing
If you tell your child to do something and your child immediately follows this or exhibits other positive behaviors, you should always give praise and show your appreciation.
Do not exaggerate when it comes to telling your children
Ask for one thing at a time and never contradict yourself. If you want to tell about several different things, you should do so over time. This is much better than telling about everything at once.
Choose your words carefully
When you want to say to your children so that they listen and follow the instructions, you should be aware that you are not just saying no all the time. Also, avoid just shouting out orders. In the same way that we as adults want others to talk to us in a polite and respectful manner, so children want it too.
Do not make threats when you say something
Using threats to get children to do things will not be effective, especially for smaller children. You should also not threaten with penalties that you will not carry out. For example, do not say “pick up your toys, otherwise you will not be allowed to go to the playground” if you will eventually pick up the toys yourself and then take them to the park anyway. So by making such statements, you are in fact reducing the credibility of your own word and your authority.
Conclusion
No doubt, despite the above advice, there will still be times when your children will not obey you. This may be because they do not understand your expectations due to their level of development. In other words, they are simply not ready to understand what you are asking them to do.
