You Are Proud Of Your Child, And You Will Always Be

You are proud of your child. It’s part of you and you love everything it does and every step it takes. You are also proud of yourself, because you have discovered how strong you are  and because you have turned every weakness into a strength.

It is often said that  children change one’s life completely. But it’s more than a change – baby arrival is a test. It forces you as a mom or dad to always give the best of yourself. You are proud of your child, but it also means that you are happy with yourself, because you know you are doing your best.

But there is one thing to keep in mind. It is very important that your child knows that you are proud of it,  just because it is what it is – just because it is your child.

Sometimes we make the mistake of praising our children only when we like their behavior. When they do what we say or when they make the bed, when they say good morning or get good grades.

All these things are positive, no doubt about it. But  every child needs to feel that they are constantly loved,  not just when they are “good”. Your child does not need to get 10/10 points on the math test for you to be proud. It is enough to see her smile, hug her or see her play happily.

You, as a mother, father or another family member, constitute the first social circle that the child encounters. For small children, it is something more. It is an environment where they will have their first experiences, which will shape how they perceive themselves.

• If they feel safe and understand that we are proud of them just as they are, it will benefit self-esteem. If, on the other hand, children do not see it in their daily lives, they will begin to feel insecure.
• We are wrong if we base our upbringing methods on punishment and reward. It creates children who are only motivated by external encouragement, who easily get frustrated when they do not receive rewards.

• Above all, we must send our children into the world with great confidence. This so that they can become individuals who do not need external encouragement to know whether something is right or wrong.
• We can only do that by raising our children with respect and emotional intelligence.

An approach to upbringing that first appeared in the 60’s is now making a comeback. It says that every parent is somehow equipped with an innate instinct that makes them know what their children need.

• It goes beyond the classic idea of ​​”mother instinct”. It’s about respectful parenting that lets  things happen when they need to. It is not necessary to rush to the next stage, only to love your child as he is.

• Respectful parenting is something we need to talk about, given how common it is to see parents who are anxious about having smarter, more capable children. Children who can read and multiply at the age of five.
• If these abilities do not come when desired, some parents may be disappointed. They are no longer proud of their children. It does not work. The children will see this frustration and internalize it as a failure. They then feel rejected because they are not what the mother or father had hoped for.

We must trust our instincts and our hearts. Not on the structures defined by society for the most skilled, smartest, most beautiful and most confident. Our children are already perfect just the way they are. You are proud of your child because it is yours, because it exists.

We know that the phrase “I will always be proud of you” also comes with something fine. We are aware that at some point in our lives, our children may be doing something wrong or bad.

However, keep this in mind:  your children will never need you more than when they did something wrong or got lost. They will need you to get back on track. They will need you to gain strength and hear that you will always love them.

That is what will give them the strength and integrity to move forward.

• You do not have to have given birth to a child to love it as your own. Your child does not have to be the best in the class, the longest or the most beautiful for you to be proud of it. It does not have to meet all your expectations for the future.

• Let them be themselves. Let them be right and wrong, and let them live as they please. Above all, they should know that you will always be there for them, no matter what happens.
• And remember:  never wait for a special occasion to say “I’m proud of you.” Say it all the time – when you say good night, when they give you a smile, when they fall but get up again…

This is what you can do to make sure your child grows up happy, knowing that he or she is loved and can be the person he or she wants to be. You are proud of your child, so make sure he is aware of it.